taken from an earlier conversation
So Abe and I were talking about busy schedules and life experiences. This somehow led to me saying that I got so involved in extracurriculars because I did not want to sit in my suite not feeling productive, making small talk with floor/suitemates. This brought me to say that I felt that there were not enough trustworthy people around, or at least I didn't spend enough time with them. I felt that a lot of opportunities for bonding were missed because people were "too busy studying" (even before the issue of Midterms came around), and I felt that I was in a sense "missing out". I look around and everyone on my floor seems bonded to a degree, but that is all through drinking and partying. I don't intend to bond through those means, so I stay within my suite (if I'm home at all). My solution, thus, is to stay on campus most of the time and "get involved" with something. This is not to say that I don't talk to anybody on my floor or in my suite. I get along with them relatively well. I just can't stand small talk.
Abe said small talk was "mundane and you don't really learn much about the person." I agreed. We went on to elaborate using examples. It ended off with me saying that I didn't have anything against talking to people on my floor or whatnot. It's just that sometimes you want to be able to talk to someone, share whatever is on your mind, and just be able to trust them.
Comments?
-Loey
Abe said small talk was "mundane and you don't really learn much about the person." I agreed. We went on to elaborate using examples. It ended off with me saying that I didn't have anything against talking to people on my floor or whatnot. It's just that sometimes you want to be able to talk to someone, share whatever is on your mind, and just be able to trust them.
Comments?
-Loey
posted by enochtang at 12:47 a.m.
8 Comments:
while i would agree that small talk is something i detest i find it relevant in the non-christian context. For a brother or sister to hide stuff from me would take away from the body and therefore we should share, for the good of the group. We have this trust because we have that one thing in common, GOd. On the other hand we have non-christians that don't trust us and we should play by their rules too if we want to get to know them.
besides, you can always be reckless and overshare until everyone is ready to be at your level. Honesty is usually apprciated and reciprocated on a long enough time line (yes, one school year is good enough). YOu won't encounter this many Non-CHristians again while you're in uni. make the best of it or you might just regret it like i do.
I agree with Enoch, one thing I wanna add is that small talk can create opportunities for deeper sharing, during lunch today at work, I sat with this girl, I prayed before my meal that God would bless our conversation. Then when we started eating, I had nothing to say, so i started with small talk, then later on we talked for a long time about past injuries that we've sustained...mostly physical injuries, but it was still a very good conversation, I felt i've gotten to know her better through it, and I use small talk to start my conversation, its a tool for us kinda like a lead to the deeper ones, for me its kinda like the servant, that takes good care of small things, if we take care of the small things, God will provide us with something big to share about with Non-believers. Talk on!!!
oh its Lei btw, i'm not in ur small group, but i am a space monkey!!! booyah
lol~ btw, if y'all don't knwo lei he's in ACF but he's out on internship this year~ i figured he could join us, he's a fellow space monkey.
http://lyang13.blogspot.com/
i'll add it to our links~
I can see what you guys are talking about. Last night after doing my Anthro-Linguistics homework, my friend and I started talking (I'm not sure how it started off) but we ended up talking about career choices, what we could possibly do with a Linguistics degree, what we were thinking in gr 12, the courses we took, the thoughts we had. Basically a lot of sharing, but a lot of insight was given during the conversation, or at least, I received a lot of insight from her. And right after the conversation ended (cuz she had other homework to do and I had to collect my laundry) I immediately thought of your comments and I wanted to come back and write about it.
PTLs, God reveals to us how he can work through our lives, and i'm glad you experienced that. more PTLs
what does PTL stand for?
Praise the LORD.
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